My Funny Valen-Mind___P Funk Style

Here it comes the lecture of the year. My brain is sitting on a skateboard. I’m the star of Porgy and Bess. When the Doc walks through the door he will deliver my benediction. Has my brain outlived my body? Indeed! Indeed! Whew! I got some War Wounds on me. Well, I haven’t reached 80 yet. Who will be the first to reach 100? The girl’s chances of making it to 100 are 1 in three while boys chances are 1 and 4. I don’t recall my brain climbing Mt. Everest at 40. Our cognitive brain function will take a nose dive in the last years of our lives. Why are women worried about their weaves, nails, body, and fashion? Why are the guys tripping off their nipples and taking selfies of their Anthony Weiner? Guys, stop hanging out with Vladimir Putin. Chaboni yogurt is cool. Let’s give recognition to our mental functions (decision-making, memory, reasoning, problem-solving skills, and how fast our globe connected to our neck can take in and put out information). Is that why Beyonce is singing Oh! Oh! Oh! All The Single Ladies? I am not putting the weight on the women along.

Men on the Republican side needed to take the Foster Friess Challenge and distribute those aspirins to Todd Akin (Ex Congressman of Missouri), Richard Murdock (Indiana State Treasurer), Paul Ryan (Congressman of Wisconsin/Chairman of the Budget Committee) and Richard Black (State Senator of Virginia). These are the Generals who initiated the War on Women and their minds are definitely on a BUDGET. Have we reached the last 30 to 40 years of our declining mind? Are we about to set up residence in the Nursing Home or at AARP Condo?

Who gives a hoot-nanny about our noggin health until we fock ourselves up in an accident. See There, we can no longer look like Prince or Smokey Robinson. We’re eating up from the floor up. Yeah, baby, we are pressing the skinny jeans to the curve. Working out the body while our mind has derailed in hell. How much knowledge can your mind bench press? Shut up! Is that your mind sitting over on the bench? Will you be able to get back in the game? TIME TO WORK IT OUT! Put the Drugs, alcohol, and fast food down. Drop the anger off at Dieffenbach Trash. Lakeside will tell you to just sail along and it will be a Fantastic Voyage. Get up off your A.. and do the Lakeside Stank. While you are at it go out and get some of those Sudoku mental puzzles to challenge your noggin or the Big Book Connect The Dots. Somebody up in the House of Representatives is not representing and they sure in hell haven’t connected the dots.

We could have gotten a better answer from Congress other than NO if these BRO’s had used their minds more. They took the MONEY CHALLENGE, not the MIND CHALLENGE. It didn’t allow Congress mind to adapt. Depending on how we use our noggin this baby can be modified to improve. Well, since Congress don’t believe in science look for a decline in noggin activity. If the GOP, Republicans, and the Tea Party take the Black to Brown to Beige Challenge we just might see some brain activity. What a challenge! ūüôā

How are you using your Funny Valen-Mind? P Funk Style is throwing creativity in the game. If you can’t party with the P Funk creativity we can throw in Jimmy Fallon and Michelle Obama who can concretely show you how to Stanky Leg it out. Get rid of those old poisonous habits that are sucking the life out of your brain. James Brown would tell you to Get On The Good Foot and make some daily changes. Sing Aretha Franklin song, You Better Think, before you make some crazy impulsive decision. While you are at it take the Stylistic advice. Stop, Look, and Listen. Think of your brain as a Clock, reset it.

From old to new it’s me and you! It can be done by incorporating your ideas and life experiences that have passed. Apply them to TODAY this MOMENT in TIME. I love doing it with oldies but goodies songs, movies, and stale old white folks who can’t move on. ūüôā Free your mind and your A.. will follow. Well, in this story it means to take a nap when you are tired. If you can hit the refresh button on the computer hit the refresh button on your noggin and breath in and out. Those moments you take in a lot of information keep it SSS-Short, Sweet, and Simple. Lay off with all that multi-tasking. Focus on one thing and work your way up the ladder. You climb a ladder one step at a TIME. Try skipping some of the steps and see what happens to your monkey A‚Ķ Found out multi-tasking is unproductive. Did you slip and fall and break everything you stood for?

Remember the movie Happy Feet. The penguins were jamming. Find the songs and movies to make you feel like you are Waiting To Exhale or Stella Got Her Groove Back. Put some pep in your step and more glide in your stride. Do your THANG BABY and AEROBICIZE! Technotronic would tell you to Pump Up The Jam and get that blood flowing to the brain. If you leave your brain on CRUZ control you will end up like TED CRUZ, brain cell death. There is a decline in brain activity when you set it and forget it. Always go back and check on it.

We can crank up the volume with exercise and move the same old-same old thinking up to complex thinking magnified. Work out baby, for MENTAL BRAIN HEALTH. Chaka Khan song the hell out of My Funny Valentine. If you listen closely to her song she sings “each day is Valentine”. We don’t want our mental processing compared to a downhill fiscal cliff that will hamper our decision-making, reasoning, critical thinking, and planning which will implode in our minds. So here’s to all the unadaptable people who will lie and say they have gotten too old. Changes in thinking can upgrade the mental load. Moving our minds FORWARD will take a while. We can do this. Try not to resist. Try My Funny Valen-Mind__P Funk Style.


The Dash Before The Distance

It’s very cold today. My body is engulfed by high-speed winds. The wind is circling around my ears and gnawing at my fingertips. The weather is not favorable. There are many days in our life where conditions are not favorable. It has become a long and exhausting day.

Taking this trip was hard but it is TIME. Yes, another ICON’s ship has sailed into the night. Her glow from life’s candle shifted as the wind-swept around the flame. The flicker of the light struggled but another strong wind caught her breath.

This moment of darkness and silence has claimed yet another ICON. DESTINATION has caught up with her. She has now boarded a cruise liner to ease her from this life of hurt, pain, and sorrow. In our hearts, we pray her spirit will be guided by an eternal beacon.

Let her soul be at rest for a pleasurable journey.

In life, some of us will run a MARATHON. The MARATHON is so rigorous with so many obstacles and hurdles to jump over. There are those who will SPRINT through life. If you’re a SPRINTER it is TIME to reflect. Don’t be in such a hurry to run a short race through THE DISTANCE.

You will meet with an early DESTINATION. When you hear someone make the comment “GONE TO SOON,” you’re beginning to understand life’s race can be shortened. Why are we in a hurry? We feel everything needs to be taken care of immediately.

How many laps can we run once the START button is pushed? Will we need to reset the start button because we have jumped the gun? Some of us will not get the opportunity to reset the start button in our lives. Will your life be a SPRINT? Can you endure the MARATHON?

A chain of events will take place on our life journey. There are TIMES when we will peek over into someone else’s life. We assume they have everything to live for. We are plagued by SHADOWING the lives of others. Our hearts are overcome with resentment, bitterness, and jealousy.

Finally, we graduated from HATRED ACADEMY. All the happiness, wealth, and power we assume an ICON lived, lies right there before our own two feet. What did we do? We stepped right over the most priceless commodity, TIME. We continued our HATRED CAMPAIGN.

This type of campaign diminishes one’s health and one’s life. The SHADOWING which is done to the lives of others has set us on a course for destruction. We yearn and grasp for what we think have made ICONS and other people successful. It blinded us and we lost track of who we could become.

We lost ourselves and we lost RESPECT for TIME. Reality is beginning to sink in. As the media reflects back on the IMAGE of the LIFE of an ICON, we realize we could never make the sacrifices in life to maintain the ICON lifestyle.

Bottom line: Never want what others have because you may not be willing to take the beat up for it.

Her music is beginning to rotate through my brain. As I walk through the stone garden, I hear her strong vocals bellow out “I Have Nothing.” The wind has picked up, my legs are beginning to weaken. The sorrow and sadness are starting to creep up on me.

I heard another rendition of the songbird voice. The tune was “I Look To You.” Many people say they never saw it coming. Did we PAY ATTENTION? She delivered a strong message in her MUSIC and in her BEHAVIOR. She went back to her gospel roots preparing for the journey home.

She was there to sing her last song with Kelly Price, “Jesus Loves Me.” She stopped in on CLIVE DAVIS, her long TIME mentor. She visited with Ray J, Brandi, and Monica. Bobbi Kristina got a chance to briefly visit with her Godfather. Brandi will never forget this birthday.

Sitting here on this stone, right at my eye level, is the DASH. From the day we are born to the day we die and have met our ESTIMATED TIME of ARRIVAL(ETA), there is THE DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE.

The DASH is all the life one is living and what goes on in between one’s life BEFORE they run THE DISTANCE. As the leaves crackle beneath my feet, I notice on the carving of the stones there are a lot of SPRINTERS here today. I came across this magnificent marble stone.

The birth date is here, and the DASH is here, but no DESTINATION date. I wonder if the person was a SPRINTER or A MARATHON RUNNER? Was this someone who had not been found and declared dead? Maybe the person was found and no one knew the DATE of his DESTINATION.

People in our lives demand so much from us. We cannot possibly meet all their requests. When it is TIME for us to meet the demands of our lives, so much Time has been devoured. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is much shorter.

Every day from this moment on our ESTIMATED TIME OF ARRIVAL(ETA) draws near. We are so much closer to our DESTINATION. ALPHA is the beginning and OMEGA is the end. The DASH BEFORE THE DISTANCE is the life we are now living. RESPECT TIME!

A door has not closed. The door is wide open. It will give others the opportunity to reflect on their lives and make changes and seek INTERVENTION.

In Loving Memory of Whitney Houston and the Celebration of her Life.

To the Houston/Brown Family, Clive Davis her long TIME mentor/dearest friend, and the many relatives/friends who mourn the loss of their loved one.

Visit the April archives. Read Rest Peaceful My Nubian Queen.

Visit the May archives. Read Reflection of Magical Moments on Twitter, I Have Learn, Etiology Of Quality, and Giving Recognition to the Unrecognized__Saving lives.

Visit the November archives and read Smokelbg Life Class__Dedicated To Oprah.

May you find peace in my words.

2012 SuperBowl Flare Up_Look Who’s Rockin’ The List

Scene: It is showtime, SuperBowl Sunday, and the guys are going down to ARTHUR BRYANTS to pick out their favorite football foods. Bobby TOURETTES, Andre ADHD, Jack PDD-NOS, Mark AUTISM, Mitt ASPERGER, and Leroy NLD are on the scene for the festivity.

Leroy NLD is checking out the prices because his girlfriend is not so big on cooking. He wants to show off his surround sound theater system that was built-in his basement by TJ SAVANT & COMPANY.

It is Bobby Tourettes turn to pay for the football bash today. Bobby is steamed under the collar at Mitt ASPERGERS comments. Mitts ASPERGER has difficulty interacting socially.

They are inside the restaurant and waiting in line to order their food. Mitt ASPERGER is looking on the wall. He can’t believe his eyes nor can he believe who has eaten at Arthur Bryants.

He has never had a REAL Community experience nor has he ever eaten in the heart of the city.

Leroy NLD:

When I wrote CHARACTERISTICS OF, this was in no way to bring any disservice to people who are diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME. We don’t get the chance to say or act like these PRETENDERS/CONTENDERS. Our problem is NEUROLOGICAL with UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS. I wonder what is their real problem?

Our butts would get hauled off to jail, medicated, and strapped down in a psycho ward. We sure as hell wouldn’t be in the Zone on PSYCHO TALK with BIG ED. Look at the gaffes MITT ROMNEY makes.

He has so many soundbites on his INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS you can make a Documentary Mini-Series on the Discovery Channel. When I speak, they are real social blunders. I will repeat my blunders several TIMES in the same way until someone corrects me.

I do not understand that it is a mistake. You must remember a lie can never be told the same way twice. When I open my mouth you will begin to realize something is wrong. Ain’t gonna be no paraphrasing. I don’t do that. There is no such thing as retracting my statement.

My mind processes information differently. I don’t read people and people definitely don’t read me. Ask me or anyone else that has been diagnosed with NLD SYNDROME a question 20 TIMES. Guess what, you are going to get the same answer 20 TIMES.

You’re not going to get an endorsement from me. If your policy stinks you will be the first to know. MITT ROMNEY has to buy votes, buy states, and buy friends. MITT ROMNEY was PASS INTERFERENCE on OBAMACARE.

His plan had a lot of the same ingredients of OBAMACARE. MITT ROMNEY passed on the plan. The first thing PRESIDENT OBAMA did when he was sworn into office was Bridge the gap by developing friends and relationships in Foreign countries to strengthen Foreign policy.

He made 4 vital phone calls. He was reaching out to other nations. The next day he was at the State Department visiting with the foreign service officers getting everyone PUMPED UP and ENERGIZED once again on worldwide international relationships.

NLDERS have a horrible TIME with relationships. All relationships are FOREIGN to us. Why do you think people with NLD SYNDROME need an Interpreter and an Understanding Manual? A lot of people underestimated the PRESIDENT on FOREIGN AFFAIRS but he caught on pretty quick.

There is a lot more than WE THE PEOPLE and OUR NATION understands under the leadership of PRESIDENT OBAMA. He has been to more countries than any PRESIDENT that has ever been in office. On the LIST of CHARACTERISTICS OF, he definitely ROCKS THE LIST and gets an A+.

Who is Rockin’ The List of BEHAVIORS? What CONTENDERS and government officials are getting away with PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSAULTS?

Bobby Tourette:

Leroy, why didn’t you talk to Mitt before coming to the inner city. Mitt ASPERGER got a lot to learn and today is not the day to teach him. You know he is going to get on the topic he likes. He will not be able to tell when others have lost interest in his topic.

Mitt ASPERGER will continue on this topic for days. You know this will piss someone off. I just wanted a barbecue sandwich. Hell, I don’t want to be on ARTHUR BRYANTS menu as Bobby burnt ends. Lord, please let me save my A.. for another day.

I hope we don’t get into a fight like we did the last TIME. SUPER BOWL or not, I ain’t going to jail. We do not have a get out of jail free card like MITT ROMNEY, NEWT GINGRICH, and RICK SANTORUM. The courts don’t understand Asperger or any other disorder.

Leroy NLD:

Yes, I heard him. Did you hear what you said? Inner City is fighting words also. I wanted MITT ASPERGER to get a real cultural outing. Bobby, you always correct me. Everyone we hang with need lots of correcting. I just wanted to see if Mitt ASPERGER could connect to the people.

I thought it was cool when Mitt ASPERGER got slapped for trying to give people handouts. He will learn before the end of the day. This is the perfect opportunity.

Bobby Tourette:

Yeah, the last TIME we went to jail I didn’t need that type of opportunity. Man, that lady’s mouth was pretty tough. Not that I have room to talk, when I get angry, my Tics kick in.

The next TIME he will think twice before he tells someone, “I bet you $20,000 you can’t get any poorer”. Insensitive fool!

Even I know better than to make people feel they are beneath me. He has one special interest and it sho ain’t people. I love the smell of money in the morning, Mr. Money-bags of MONOPOLY, MITT ASPERGER. We know OUR Mitt’s behaviors is UNINTENTIONAL.

MITT ROMNEY has many soundbites stating he doesn’t care about the VERY POOR or the VERY RICH. I just want to hear MITT ROMNEY man-up and say he wants to destroy the middle class and confess he is angry because PRESIDENT OBAMA can sing better than him. Jealousy, NOT!

You know MITT ROMNEY is looking at those numbers. All the experience he has with spreadsheets and making money. You know his butt is ROASTED TOAST now that economic conditions have improved. The President has one hell of a chance of beating MITT ROMNEY’S drawers off.

MITT ROMNEY would need to be AFRICAN AMERICAN today instead of wishing he was MEXICAN eating at ARTHER BRYANTS. I would love to see his reactions. The good news is this restaurant receives all races extremely well. Bill O’Reilly has got to eat here.

Andre ADHD:

I know how hard it is for Mitt ASPERGER. I have said some stupid things myself but my medication alerted me not to get too crazy and bet with him. “OOPS,” did I just tell everyone I take legalized drugs? It sounds better until you overdose.

Then you realize you have a substance abuse problem. In my neighborhood, you are just a hard-core addict with stolen prescriptions. Why do we get the worst end of the stick? Jan Brewer, the governor of Arizona, gets to be called RADICAL.

Jan Brewer’s extreme behavior was an offensive personal foul and a 15-yard penalty for getting into the face of the PRESIDENT of the UNITED STATES. She should be fined and ejected from her position as Governor of Arizona.

She is a repeat offender and the ADAM PAC MAN JONES of the REPUBLICAN PARTY. Jan Brewer’s unnecessary roughness is for attacking the teachers, firefighters, and police officers. The Republicans in Arizona feel they can silence the voice of the UNION and any other public servants.

Whatever rites the people have will be stripped away by the REPUBLICANS. One thing they can’t take away is my inabilities of focusing, PAYING ATTENTION, nor my giant boulder. Every day of my life I’m leaning more and more toward becoming Bi-Polar.


You know ANDRE ADHD, you remind me of RICK PERRY Off SIDE. You are off your line of scrimmage and you tussled with getting the answer right. Did they ever get your medication straight? Hey ANDRE ADHD over here, you just can’t stay focused. Get over here!

Folks in this restaurant think I’m talking to myself. NEWT GINGRICH is UNNECESSARY ROUGHNESS and KNEE CAPPING. He is really striking below the belt. NEWT is trying to destroy MITT ROMNEY. I couldn’t believe HERMAN CAIN endorsed NEWT GINGRICH. HERMAN CAIN, “MR SHUCKY DUCKY,” of all people.

Everyone knows HERMAN CAIN has been shucked like corn and his brain is plucked like a duck.

Mark Autism:

Leroy NLD talks out loud to himself. He explained it as processing his thoughts. Leroy said if he hears what he verbalizing he can process the information better. When LEROY NLD starts processing out loud, people think he is crazy.

Bobby Tourette always says when Leroy gets mad he will hold that thought and won’t ever forget what someone has done to him. Leroy is HOLDING. He processes so much information. Leroy NLD struggles with applying old information to new ideas.

Adaptability is difficult for him but he is willing to learn. I can’t say that about the REPUBLICAN PARTY. They have a choice. The REPUBLICAN PARTY’S intentions are to HOLD the ECONOMY back. They refused to ADAPT. It benefits the REPUBLICAN PARTY and the 1% to keep things as they are.

Look at the BEHAVIORS of RON PAUL. Wouldn’t his BEHAVIOR be call HOLDING? RON PAUL gets a 10-yard Penalty for HOLDING onto past ideologies. He does tell you what is on his mind. The REPUBLICANS want him to go away because he exhibits annoying BEHAVIOR.

LEROY NLD displays annoying BEHAVIOR, not by choice, and we don’t isolate him. Everyone in our gang of six has annoying BEHAVIORS. We are singled out, called weird, and isolated from society. We have delays and our finest moments.

Mitt Asperger:

MITT ROMNEY wants to delay the economy and blame PRESIDENT OBAMA for making the economy WORSE. This is UNSPORTMAN LIKE CONDUCT and EXCESSIVE CELEBRATION. He needs to be fined and suspended. Maybe DONALD TRUMP will fire him. Can you believe this? Look whose picture is on the wall.

Is that John MCCAIN? There’s SARAH PALIN! Is that JIMMY CARTER? NO! That can’t be BILL CLINTON! It’s a miracle they came down in this community and ate with you people.

Bobby Tourette:

Did you just say, “YOU PEOPLE?” Hold up! You begin to sound like MITT ROMNEY. I let it pass when you made the comment about me paying with food stamps. I should have corrected you. Your NEWT GINGRICH remark didn’t go over to well and your BEHAVIOR got WORSE.

I know you didn’t mean any harm. You need to be held ACCOUNTABLE for your inappropriate remarks. I know you are Rocking the List but it does not excuse you. What you just said caused me to FLARE UP. It feeds my anger.

Mitt Romney has made many negative remarks, straight up lied about the remarks, and his remarks feed the PEOPLE’S anger. NEWT GINGRICH thinks he’s slick. There is nothing subliminal about his remarks.

Once you have survived HATRED or RACISM you will always know the flavor, the color, and the stench it leaves behind. Leroy NLD is our food order ready? We need to get out of here before Mitt ASPERGER cause a Race War.

The last TIME it was Nicky NLD, Leroy’s cousin, who got us thrown out for his remarks.

Leroy NLD:

Hey, man, the food is ready. Let’s head out. Well, Mitt ASPERGER what do you think about our trip today?

Mitt Asperger:

This is a real colored experience. What! Did I say something wrong?

Bobby Tourette:

We are going to get out of here and I will explain it on the way. You better be glad you are MITT ASPERGER instead of MITT ROMNEY or NEWT GINGRICH. Don’t expect a soundbite. Your mouth just wrote a check your A.. can’t pay for.

In the January Archives of 2011 go back and refresh your memory. Read NLD Superbowl Pregame. Also read Superbowl Flare-up NLD and Superbowl Game Time, Rockin’ the List posted in the February archives.

Let Fathers Be Fathers

This experience is frightening for me. Our son has to go through a diagnostic evaluation to see if he has a learning disability. He was fine until he reached middle school then his grades begin to drop. The more things he had to do on his own he just didn’t seem to be able to get organized for his school work. I thought it was because his grandmother passed away. Quincy and his grandmother were so close. She practically raised him from a baby. His mother, Catherine, worked two jobs and her mother offered to help us out. JoAnn, Catherine’s mother, was a diabetic. I always felt my wife should quit one of her jobs so we could spend more time with Quincy. I didn’t mind making the sacrifice to work the extra hours. I wanted at least one parent to be with Quincy so he wouldn’t feel he was so alone. She was forced to quit one of the jobs after her mother died. I don’t know if she resented coming home.

I worked for the railroad. It was a fairly decent pay when I put in the extra long hours. Milton, a long time co-worker, and my best friend had a son diagnosed with autism. He shared many stories about his son. Milton’s stories frightened me because they always seemed to be so closely connected to my life. It appeared that Milton and his ex-wife had problems regarding their son being autistic. Later I learn Milton’s ex-wife had trouble with any women coming around her son or dating Milton.

Milton had gained full custody of his son. He was very proactive in his son’s life. Milton had started an autism support group. He had invited me several times. It always made me feel as if Milton was so many steps ahead of me. He continued to ask me to come and participate in the Autism group. Some parts of me wanted to attend but the other half of me was afraid. For some reason, I could see part of my life being like Milton. It felt like the movie Face Off.

Catherine and I had trouble in our marriage. She blamed herself for not being there when her mother passed away. We had problems before her mother ever came to stay. Her mother’s presence helped relieve a great amount of stress in our household.

JoAnn was so patient and kind with Quincy. She was Quincy’s rock. Catherine and I were so tired after working so many hours. It left us no room to deal with Quincy’s problems. It didn’t allow him the ability to process when he became angry and frustrated. JoAnn would always tell Catherine, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It. Let the boy’s father deal with his behavior. Catherine was quick-tempered and lacked patience. It would make Quincy’s behavior become very explosive.

More and more Quincy’s behavior started changing and he begins to sleep a lot. I became greatly concerned because I thought Quincy was slipping into a state of depression. Catherine said Quincy just wanted attention and he was just lazy and she didn’t have the time to be bothered with his foolishness. Where did that response come from? When I ask her about her statement, she glared at me with her lip twisted and stormed out of the room. I guess that was my answer. We had begun to argue more frequently.

I was all for the evaluation but Catherine would get upset every time I would try to talk about it. We were getting closer to our evaluation date. Catherine had almost totally shut down. The moments of silence were killing me and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Every time I would try to discuss how we could help Quincy she would bring up her father and how he would deal with the situation. Catherine was very close to her father. At the age of 17, her father died on his way to work of a stroke. She always compared me to her dad. At first, I didn’t mind. I kind of thought it was an honor until I talked to JoAnn. Before Catherine’s mother died we had this conversation about JoAnn’s husband. He wasn’t the man my wife made him out to be.

In the heat of the moment, I tried to get Catherine to talk. When she mentioned her dad my head spun around like I was the star in the Exorcist. The next thing I knew I had revealed what Catherine’s mother had told me about her dad. At that moment I realized from the look on my wife’s face she never knew. My heart-felt as if it was going to come through my chest. I would never say or do anything to hurt Catherine. It was all over. Catherine ran into the bedroom and started grabbing her clothes out of the closet. I was trying to prevent her from leaving and I don’t remember what happened after that. I have tried to relive that moment in the bedroom a thousand times. The only thing I do remember is I was trying to guard my face. When I looked down, my shirt was bloody. From the mirror in the bedroom, I could see scratches all over my body. I called Milton to see if he could pick Quincy up from school. He never asked for an explanation.

Everything was going through my mind. Did she call the police? When were the police going to arrive? Whatever happened in that bedroom, Catherine never came back. The police never showed up. Who said that men don’t cry. I cried for days and days. I love my wife but we always seem to communicate with other people. That did not help our marriage at all. Months had passed and finally, I got a call from one of Catherine’s longtime friends from New York. Beverly told me Catherine was granting me full custody of Quincy. Before I could ask about Catherine, I was listening to the dial-tone. Just when I thought I had pulled myself together the crying came back. Here was my son asking all these questions and I had no answers. Quincy and I had to move on.

Quincy did get evaluated and he was diagnosed with NLD Syndrome. I have full custody of Quincy now. He often asks me if he was the cause of his mother leaving. He wonders will she ever come back. I wonder the same. Catherine and I never really communicated what was on our minds and in our hearts. We were both too young to have children. I am seeking professional help. There is so much I need to work through. I don’t want to be an angry parent. This isn’t just about my life. I need to be sure I don’t damage Quincy’s life. He has a lot to deal with. I will be right there for him. I have a lot to learn about NLD Syndrome. Milton is helping me to set up a support group and build a website. Yes, I am afraid that I will keep my promise to Quincy’s grandmother. Let Fathers be Fathers and continue to advocate for their children’s needs. Let Fathers be Fathers and understand the social and emotional part of their children’s life. Let Fathers Be Fathers and show the love, support, and embrace their child’s weakness just as they would rally around their strengths. JoAnn is probably looking down on me and Quincy today. As JoAnn would say, Let Fathers be Fathers and Deal With It.

DEDICATION: This story is dedicated to a young man who had to deal with it. He has done an exceptional job and is very supportive of his family and children. He would make any mother proud of how he is handling his life and the lives of family and friends he has touched. This one is for you, Willie Watson.

Super Bowl Flare Up NLD

We are counting down the days to the Superbowl. Emotions are running high. Our tempers are flaring up. Americans go berserk when competitive sports are involved.

Can I have a spotlight down here, please?  I just need to take a closer look at some of the players.  Thank you.  Maybe this will shine the light on why our team players are having these outbursts of anger, and explosive behaviors.

Leroy, get over here and stop acting like you own the team. ¬†I know you don’t do well with criticism. ¬†You upset a few of your teammates when you get loud and you were in their face. ¬†Don’t be upset if they change the color of your shoes. You look like a Demanding Diva to the coach and the owner.

Let’s get one thing straight. ¬†Leroy is not emotionally disturbed. ¬†He has some negative behaviors but he is not a behavior problem.¬† In the Sunday paper, it had Leroy Syndrome painted as an arrogant a-hole. ¬† He is not arrogant and he wasn’t having a bad hair day. ¬†Leroy Syndrome is NLD. ¬†Leroy does Leroy.¬† He does himself. ¬†Leroy does have other special interests.

It appears that Leroy may have a know-it-all attitude. ¬†He has trouble with authority figures and has a problem with identifying who is in charge. ¬†So coach Asperger, just explains to him in a nice calm voice that the team is not his. ¬†Sorry Coach, I forgot you have the same problem with a loud voice. ¬†We will find someone else to do it. ¬†Leroy does better with praises than with criticism. ¬†Tell Mike Ditka this is good for Leroy’s self-esteem. ¬†What is wrong with positive feedback? ¬†We all know Leroy needs a lot of praises.

Bring that bucket over here. ¬†Is that the understanding bucket? ¬†That’s the wrong bucket. ¬†Get it out of here!

Tell Dwayne and Boo Boo don’t get mad. ¬†I know he talks loud.¬† The other players Asperger,¬† Autism, and ADHD talks loud also. ¬†He did not mean to sound threatening. ¬†Leroy has a right hemisphere brain disorder. ¬†He is unable to comprehend changes in voices and body language. ¬†The non-verbal element of his speech is disturbed. ¬†Leroy doesn’t have rhythm. ¬†Literally. ¬†That’s in his voice and tone of his speech. ¬†He can’t read the facial expressions which play a part in his loud voice. ¬†Calmly say to him, lower your voice. ¬†He just needs to be cued in.

Leroy would you tell them that those tennis shoes are not your lucky piece charm. ¬†“Yes, I have a hard time adapting to change and the coach did not let me know ahead of time.” ¬†Leroy, is there anything else you would like to tell us? ¬†“Well, the shoes are important to me. ¬†I have a difficult time with what is relevant or irrelevant. ¬†I talk off task or get away from the subject. ¬†When people don’t explain themselves and they ask me did I understand, I say no.” ¬†Well, you heard it firsthand from Leroy Syndrome. ¬†This will help you understand why people tell you NO.

To the owner, you have a manual on how the game is played.  It is time to get a manual on Leroy Syndrome.

This one is dedicated to Barack and Michelle Obama.  Understanding NO is important.