The Ears Have It!

All in favor say EYE. Eye! Sorry the EARS Have it. How did that happen?  You were not listening. Listening in itself is a monumental skill.  But! No Buts! You had your back turned. As soon as the voice open up you could hear the Hater-Aid coming through. When your back was turned it gave the person on the other side a chance to not be judged harshly.  Visual contact is a monster. Once we see a person don’t quite fit the mold we quickly throw them to the wind without even giving the person a chance to fall upon our deaf ears.  For real! Absolutely! There are many people who can’t judge a person and become very trusting of what they hear. Why? Well, there are some people who don’t explore the world around then. Information gathered from others can be taken as believable because the person or persons can not hear the tone in their voice, read their facial expression, or decipher their body language.  Thank you for the information because I’m one of those people.  I knew it! I knew it! I just couldn’t put my finger on it.  Shall I continue? Do your thing Ellery Queen.

What is achieved scholastically is based on what is communicated through our speech, conversation, writing, words, DEBATES, talking, and vocabulary. Come on down front,  grab a plate of pot roast,  serve  yourself some buttered cornbread and just say plain old “Language.”  We need a big measuring cup to measure the Intelligence of nonverbal and verbal characteristic.  We tend to fall short by completely ignoring the nonverbal deficits which will brand the individual as troubled or as a problem. Language plays a big part in our daily lives. Competency of an individual is judge by their verbal proficiencies. You got your smooth talkers out there who appear to be more credible than the mumble jumble grammar makers and those who fall short on their vocabulary. The smooth talker could be just a smooth talker and have trouble with reading, spelling, and expressive language.  The same smooth talker can have problems in the areas of organization, attention, social understanding, anxiety and fear, non verbal and spatial thinking, motor co-ordination, math, and handwriting.

So what is it we need to do? Understanding and giving Recognition to the Unrecognized is key. We got to  make sure the right diagnosis is given.  Pay very close attention to what you hear and what is being said. Remember the Ears Have it. There is such an inadequate awareness of hidden causes to people who suffer from neurological disorders and are labeled behavior problems and emotionally disturbed.  You mean to tell me they are not. “NOT!”  I recently kept hearing the word “NOT” in a DEBATE. We will “NOT” get this confused with people who are UNINTELLIGENT with INTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS.  Based on what the Eyes saw and what the Ears heard, the Ears Have It. Why? What the people heard was a bunch of BS.  From the answers given was from an Emotionally Disturbed individual. In no way, shape, or form can he use this story against the Intelligent Individual. “NOT” even the part stating the smooth talker with strong verbal language proficiencies. How will you locked it down in this story? Simple! I saw her medical chart. It came from the HILL 🙂 either way. It indicated she was “NOT” a Behavior Problem, “NOT” Emotionally Disturbed, Mental Processing had no blemishes. Yes, I just violated the HIPAA  law. Well, Bill won’t mine he signed it in 1996. Okay! So this is what needs to be revealed about Unintentional Behaviors.

What I want Jay T, Robert, and the rest of  Kool and The Gang to know is for many years you guys compensated your non-verbal weakness and used language skills in its place which gave a false impression. To your teachers it appeared to be no problems in your early years of schooling. As time went on it became obvious other problems raised their ugly head. The anxiety and fear kicked in and everyone started labeling you guys as behavior problems. See, you proved them all wrong. Yelp, it was said time and time again y’all  talk too much. I was fully aware you relied on  speech to cope with relating to people socially, information gathering, and coping with anxiety.  The core problem that exists is gathering multiple pieces of information and pulling them together to form a single idea. Now it becomes a whole picture and all those pieces of  information locks the puzzle together.

Resources are slim in the public and private sector. There are many doctors who never heard or have a clue about NLD Syndrome nor professionals in education,  A syndrome that was discovered back in the early part of 1970 was considered as low-incidence because someone dropped Miley Cyrus Wrecking Ball and failed to continue to test more individuals.   This is the first time you mentioned the name. People act as though this diagnosis is a death sentence. “NOT!” It was like being on the Voice. When my chair turned I knew the person standing in front of me behaviors could be explained and whatever behaviors had been displayed and the audience reacted negatively to were UNINTENTIONAL. The Ears Have It! So listen carefully while the Eyes read it. Please take this time and cruise through the Archives of NLD Recognition. There is so much to learn  and I promise you will not be left in a fog. Well I know you made me feel a lot better about myself. I feel there is so much hope and people will begin to listen to me. Their Ears Have It. I will never forget what Dr. Monica Kurylo from the University of Kansas Medical Center gave me. She gave me a book by Jim Wooten named We Are All The Same. I will cherished that book for a life time. Dr. Albert Buddy Poje of the University of Kansas Medical Center was so instrumental in my life. He told me any behavior is Intentional unless proven otherwise. These are the Nu-Waves Physicians and their Ears Have It.

 

 

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Left Brain/Right Brain___Whatever!

Hmmm! I guess we are not rocking the emotions today. Are you just not feeling it? I would love to feel it but my Right brain has some damages.  Whatever! My body has a lot of damages.  You don’t understand. Break it down to me.  When the Right Brain is damaged I lack the ability to decipher emotional information. I’m not ignoring the body language, facial expression, gesture, or the tone in people’s voices. I just can’t interpret nonverbal communication. So the key to your ignition doesn’t ignite your engine and you are left with the remix of cold cognition.  Sounds like R. Kelly Trapped In The Closet to me. Who is R. Kelly?  A soulful songwriter and producer whose ignition had a lot of issues. He step away from the spotlights into his closet so his behavior would go into remission.

Basically, it just hard for you to put yourself in others people’s NIKES and you could not afford AIR JORDANS.  The price should not be so high that people assume you know how to behave and you really don’t.  The key to unlocking the door is to TEACH. Oooh! I have a great mentor out there who taught me the bottom line is what you need to know.  One cannot go from zero to one hundred. There are small steps we must take to reach our goal.  One day you will reach one hundred.  I can see why a person behavior would go off the chain when you are singing to the tune of Alicia Keys song, NO ONE.  I struggle big time socially.  I struggle big time medically.  So, Whatever! You are no different from me. There are many things in my life that needs improvement. Every person on this planet needs to improve something in their life.

What did you say your name is?  I didn’t but people call me NLD Syndrome. I’m talking about the name on your birth certificate. Oh! My for real name is Constance. Well, for real Constance if I had to put my name down for every infected body part or missing part there would be no room for my parents name, date of birth, time, and the stamp of approval that the birth certificate is legitimate. See that long sentence I just wrote. Yeah! It is called a run on sentence.  I don’t need an English lesson. Constance, the point is my name would look just like that sentence on the birth certificate. That is what I’m trying to tell you.  I don’t get the whole picture. So, Whatever! If my body was a puzzle, BABY, there are pieces missing but I still can function. Another part on my body will pick up the tab.  In the medical community a doctor will explain that you are born with 2 lungs. If one lung goes the other one is set up to carry on. This is the BIGGEST mistake the psychiatric community makes. Some other plan of action can be put into place.   The tab can be picked up to keep people with mental illness from feeling hopeless, a shame, and humiliated. We want you to seek help. People view mental illness as prolonged. A physical illness will take the body out quicker.

You are NOT terminally ill if you have been diagnosed with a mental illness.  How does the Left Brain pick up the tab?  I have so much verbiage.  I’m talking all over the place. Wow! You become the VOICE.  Have you ever watch that show? There is a lot of body language and begging on that show. Adam Levine stretches across his desk as if he is the most desperate artist begging to win the next season over Blake Shelton.  Pharrell with that baby-face smile leaning forward poking out his neck signaling,  “Come Home.”  Christine Aguilera using her hand movements to rope people in to be on her team.  Blake Shelton watching those cowboy boots, beating on his desk, and giving a friendly reminder to the new artist he has won three times.

My writing can go on for eons without me getting to the point. My friends last story was like that but she had a lot of points to make. 🙂 I starting reading early and my teacher thought I was gifted. When I was promoted to the next grade it took me too long to write and my hands got sore. It look like I was coloring instead of writing.  I couldn’t keep up because I was so unorganized. I got into trouble so many times when the teacher would say,  “can you just imagine.” It would piss me off and my behavior begin to boil over like rice.  Oh God, when the teacher start repeating lessons my head would spin around.  At that moment I felt as though I needed a priest to keep me from peeing on the carpet. I got this. I have the HERE-SAY PROGRAM. I’m auditory-verbal  At the end of the school day my brain felt like it had heard it all and I had said TOO much. Math became complex because it was so abstract. I would use all these big words in my writing but the paper said nothing.

I have a lot of memory but it is hard for me to take my old thoughts and transfer what I had learned to new situation. I have come a long way and I have gotten much better. Good for you Constance. I want to make friends and develop relationships. After reading my friend’s story I realized the corporate community are afraid people will band together, make policy changes, defend their human/civil rights. If she struggled on her job and nothing was put in place for her to do an effective job, I will have a much tougher path to follow.  True Dat! When my mother found out the final word on my diagnoses she was relieved but she cried for days. My mother came across a chart. Listed on the chart was Syndromes With Social Incompetencies. It listed Williams Syndrome (WS), Autism, High Function Autism (HFA) Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), Hyperlexia, Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), and Nonverbal Learning Disabilities (NLD). On the left hand side of the chart it has Speech, IQ, Motor, and Behavior.

Nonverbal Learning Disabilities (NLD) has early speech and vocabulary development. Pragmatic and prosody is poor. One may not be tactful when knowing when to end a conversation or how fast they are talking. As the saying goes silence can be golden but if you don’t know when to stop talking a problem exist big time. Common sense and being realistic is the ruler of today. Hey! Good news, it can be taught.  IQ for Nonverbal Learning Disability is normal to superior. VIQ>PIQ means Verbal Intelligence is much greater than the actual Performance. Whatever! Donald Trump is leading in the polls and he’s a Billionaire. As a matter of fact The DONALD has inspired me to write this story and the next story coming your way real soon. There are a lot of people who talk a GOOD GAME and still get paid. One of my favorite people was Darrell Issa. Issa reasoning, abstract or not was shot to hell.  He never found any criminal activity against former Attorney General Eric Holder.  I can’t really say Issa talked a GOOD GAME but he talked a lot, had no common sense, and was very unrealistic. He is the richest member in Congress. Dang!  Consultants are the new VIQ>PIQ and any person that fall in this category.  Motor skills for NLD dexterity is a problem. The skill to paint, eat with chopstick or a fork takes eye hand coordination. So Jack be nimble Jack be quick is hard for Jack to comprehend.  Jack can learn and start to mend. Writing, typing cutting with scissors and buttoning clothes can be a pain in the a**.  People diagnosed with NLD  have a tendency to sit on the floor to eat to help maintain their balance.  As far as NLD Behavior goes people who are diagnosed with this syndrome lack skills in receptive and expressive language hindering their verbal communication skills.

The biggest problem I have is when I become angry no one wants to help me or give me strategies and coping skills. They want to shove a bunch of pills down my throat. So they bring out Austin Powers and tell me to, “Oh Behave Baby!”  I have had the police called on me. People want to lock me away. I have been kicked out of those so-called self-righteous NLD groups.  They just want to talk about NLD Syndrome.  I live in the real world not a thread.  What I say can get me killed outside that thread. You don’t have to say anything and can get killed. I am at a greater risk if NO ONE understands that my behavior is UNINTENTIONAL.  I strongly feel the psychiatric community should address race, politics, cultural diversity.   NLD is not the biggest problem I have. There have been several Black women and Black males shot down by the police. You haven’t forgotten Sandy Hook?   The school located in Sandy Hook was not for children with extraordinary minds, unique abilities, and multi-level learning styles.  Our society labels  children/adults mentally disabled.

You have 16 contenders running for 2016.  These contenders have made several social blunders, gaffes, faux pas, and slip ups INTENTIONALLY.   You better know who is MENTALLY CHALLENGED.  If the psychiatric community can’t address these conversation in their group maybe they need to be turned over to the Citizen Commission On Human Right (CCHR). These are the watchdog investigating and exposing Psychiatric Human Rights Violation. BOW WOW WOW YIPPY YO YIPPY YEAH!  Turn the Dog catcher loose.   While we’re at it let’s turn over the 16 contenders for next year Presidency to CCHR. It is Time for the NLD Community to visit http://www.cchr.org.  It took me years to be diagnosed as NLD Syndrome.  NLD Syndrome is not on my birth certificate.  You have people in the next election singing, “If I Only Had A Brain.”   They should be singing, “I Sure Got A Lot Of Nerves.”  Has anyone stopped you and asked if you used your Left Brain/Right Brain__Whatever!

Who In The World Is NLD

It is time to go in search of specific characteristics or traits that sets me apart from others.   These characteristics will help identify NLD

>  I can talk it out better than simply doing the task

> My speech and language develop early

>  I learn information by habit or rote memory

>  I use Fancy footwork to express myself eloquently

>  Dancing is out, tying my shoes and typing is difficult, I will not be on a balance beam, or riding a bike due to coordination problems

> My nervous system is compromised which causes me to have severe balance problems

> No cutting the turkey, or cutting any objects for that matter – fine motor skills

> It’s hard to identify faces, to judge people, It is hard to understand others view points,   and I have  a problem with the perception of time.

> I can’t read people’s body language (posture, gesture, facial expression, social cues)

> I find it difficult adapting to change and transitioning

> I take abstract concepts literal, hidden residual rules

> I have poor social judgement and trouble interacting with people

There are three areas that includes NLD and surround me.

> motoric

> visual-spatial-organizational

> social

Motoric – impairment causing difficulty to typing and writing (computers, iMac, iPods, iTouch, iPad, iPhone).

Thank you to Steve Jobs, Bill Gates of Microsoft and Michael Dell of Dell Computers, Sony and for Mac Scribe;

NLD has difficulty buttoning, fastening,(Thank you Robert Kiyosaki for velcro); manipulating small objects, tasks that require dexterity(Thank you for  your “As Seen On TV”, Grabber, your One Touch can opener, Slicer Dicer, and Magic Bullet ).

NLD talks their way through a motor task (verbally)(Thank you for Bluetooth);

NLD resist eating with a fork or spoon, (Thank you for food product like Cup of Soup with a spout) laying on the floor, NLD finds it hard to sit in a chair(Thank You for video rocking chairs, ottomans, platform beds, and bean bags) due to coordination it will be difficult to master simple athletic skills,

NLD find their gross motor skills are impaired (running, jumping, climbing)

NLD presses too hard with pencil.(Thank you for stylus)

Visual spatial/visual perception-organizational-

For NLD it is difficult to tell who is in charge (difficulty with authority figures) hard to judge how heavy or large an object (doesn’t explore the world around him/her), hard to gather information, can’t envision or no imagination, can’t think creatively or abstractly not sure where his body is in space (space invader)

NLD can’t read maps, graphs or charts (Thank You for Garmin, Tom Tom, Apple, Verizon, T-Mobile, Net 10, Sprint, Nextel, AT&T, Straight Talk, Cricket for your navigational devices);

NLD  verbally labels everything, difficulty with shapes, sequence, prioritizing, binds through dialogue (use bluetooth), difficulty with left and right,   and concept formation, organizing and planning.

Social-expressive and receptive language –

NLD has difficulty with pragmatic and semantic skills (linguistic and how one express oneself) or linguistic syntax, abstract language (figurative, idioms, multiple meaning) very literal, monotone voice,

NLD has lots of social blunders, can not decipher posture, facial expression, very black and white, can not read between the lines,

NLD makes very precise remarks, people think they are jerks,

NLD has cocktail party speech(Captain Jack Sparrow), labeled as a pest or annoying, rude, not courteous

NLD may appear to others as disrespectful, naively trusting (needs trusted adults or grand guardians) rigid in thoughts…

In addition, NLD has difficulty with attention deficits, overstimulating environments, trouble with staying focus, and distractions need to be limited. Multitasking is counterproductive and step by step procedures work best with limited directions.

Hey, those are not my eyeglasses…

Hey, those are not my eyeglasses. One of the lenses is missing. The left lens is in tact, but the right lens is out. Now you are cooking! Thank you for finding my neuro-behavioral right hemisphere shades. No, I’m not Captain Sparrow. I’m NLD.

Don’t worry, we will hit a few bumps along the way. We are going to have some misunderstandings. This is just a friendly reminder to let you know that I’m not EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED. I have UNINTENTIONAL BEHAVIORS So whatever happens to me and the world around me, I did not do it on purpose.

Those bumps will decrease, the misunderstandings will diminish if you EDUCATE yourself about me. Just TEACH me. Give me the FACTS, no FLUFF and we will be okay. SPELL IT OUT, POINT IT OUT, so that we can TALK IT OUT. LA Confidential. Just the Facts Jack!

From where I am standing, looking through these glasses, I process information differently. You would too if you miss 65% of NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION.

Sure, I talk a good game but all hell is going to break loose if I have to apply the information or write it. Look close… that’s right… I’m very language proficient.

In the educational world, they judge you by scholastic achievements based on language communication. What happens when you stop talking? We have to decipher the NONVERBAL ASPECT of COMMUNICATION. Uh oh, I’m in trouble now! The body starts talking. I can’t read it.

Let me ask you something… Do you know anyone like this? Does it sound like you?

Stay Tuned…..