The Men Who Transcends

Are you ready to do this?  It is long overdue. Why today?  This is my way of giving back and moving forward with my life. I want the men out there who are struggling with their baby’s mommas to know they can be good fathers no matter where they are. Whether or not they live in the home, outside the home,  in another city, state, or country.  The biggest mistake I made was using the children for chess pieces to get back at Andre. My anger led me to put him in court, tie his money up, and deny him access to the kids.  When it was time for him to pick up the kids I made all type of flimsy excuses.  Any person Andre attempted to start a relationship with I was up in the mix destroying the path with my pack of lies making him out to be a rotten father and poor provided to his kids.

Why? Did he cheat on you? I believe I was cheated out of TIME. Andre missed school plays, lose track of time, never could remember my birthday or the kids.  He never was able to read me. Andre was slow at figuring things out.  Andre’s mind was like a blank slate. I got tired of feeling in the pieces of the puzzle.  It appeared as though Andre got along with his partners and he would rather be with them more than me. I always felt the people around Andre guarded him. There were times I felt l excluded.  There was so much I thought Andre should know but he didn’t understand.  Did you try to explain it to him? No! So you just assumed Andre knew.  You said you got tired of feeling in the pieces of the puzzle. I meant I just went ahead with my own program. At this point I was so frustrated.  I stop caring. Andre could figure out his own program.  He never saw the writing on the wall.

What do you mean by the writing on the wall?  I decided to leave him. Where did you move to? Did you take the kids? No! I couldn’t afford to financially leave at the time because I was not financially able. My body was still located at the same address but my mind had move out. So when I got financially able I would pack my bags and move everything which included my body,  kids,  and all. I decided I would put him through a living hell.  Did you ever stop and think Andre may have felt as if he was in a living hell?   He loved you but it was so much in your relationship which need to be pointed out and explained.

What attracted you to Andre? He acted like a big kid. It may not have been an act. What do you mean?  Did Andre need more guidance or direction than any of your other male friends? Yes, but a lot of times I played it off and thought he was being silly.  Andre appeared to be so immature.   I thought Andre wanted me to run the show.  Now that I am  reflecting back on our relationship I did make the majority of the decisions. So you were the one who always had a plan. That is right. Andre would always tell me to go ahead and do what makes me happy and he would be happy.  Whenever we got into the planing phase he would get frustrated. What happen next? I would get angry and tell him I would do it myself. How did he react? He would retreat to his man-cave and would not come out for  hours. Sometimes he would go sit in the park and listen to his iPod.  Was Andre angry when he return home?   No, it was as though he had forgotten what happen or he just did not want to discuss the issue.  His favorite saying was, “Let’s not do this again, I hate repeating myself.”  One thing I did learn you could never win an argument it would go on and on. Andre knew a lot of information. You just had to cut him off when the conversation seemed to be going nowhere.  Did he get mad? No! The conversation would end. He would move to the next topic.

How did Andre react toward the kids?  He was great with the kids. As a matter of fact he was the biggest kid of all.  So why were you so hell-bent on destroying the relationship and keeping him away from his children. I didn’t feel as though I  knew how to be a good wife. What did you feel like? Honestly! I felt more like I needed more attention but he was draining the life out of me. Andre was the 3rd child. Did you ever seek counseling?  No!  I had become so frustrated I  just wanted out. Did you ever think Andre needed help with his mental processing? I don’t know, by this time I felt so worn down the only option for me was to get a divorce.

After Andre  and I got a divorce he went into a deep depression. His sister stepped in and she immediately sought out help. How did you feel about his sister?  I was so jealous of her because  she always had Andre’s back. Did she take sides in the marriage? No! She was always trying to give me advice on things that could help us get through the rough spots. It made me think she was always around the corner. I was his wife and I wanted her to back off. This may sound so wrong but I felt at the time he got what he deserved. It was very wrong.  It took Andre about 6 years to recover himself. He remained a good father and he continued to support me and the children. Andre wrote a book on his struggles and the new women in his life. He told of how she helped him recover through his crisis. I was pissed and went into a rage. Why?  It felt as though I was invisible and our marriage had never existed.  His life took a different path.  He had become successful and moved on.I felt isolated and left behind.  What did you do? I took him back to court.  I was so angry and so determine to destroy Andre. The judge ruled in his favor and my request for additional child support was denied.

I went home and I thought the only recourse to take was deny him the right to see the children. The kids began to turn on me and began to express how they hated staying with me. Their school grades began to drop. Trouble began to show upon my door step. The rebellion was on. They wanted to see their dad. I realized I had messed up. What made you change? He invited me over so we could talk about the kids. I was very reluctant to go. I went and his wife, Sandra answered the door.   I held my breath. She was really friendly. She escorted me into the dining room. I was feeling very nervous and anxious. Andre came out and gave me a big hug. He really looked happy. I could not sense any resentment or hostility from Andre nor his wife. He began to talk about the kids and how he missed them. There was such a glow in his eyes. I began to feel horrible for robbing him of his time with the kids. Sandra, Andre’s wife,  went on and on about the kids and how they were her big helpers. As I watch both of them together I realize she understood him.  Sandra responded to Andre in a manner that I had a very difficult time with.   My heart was put to ease.  Sandra was good for Andre. As the evening came to a close Sandra got up to go into the kitchen to bring out her surprise dessert. She had baked a red velvet cake. I love red velvet cake. Inscribed in the middle of the cake it said,  “The Men Who Transcends Respect, Support, And Love Their Children And Families To The End. Happy Father Day!”

 

 

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My Friend With The Yellow Pen

My Friend With The Yellow Pen I made sure I put my eye drops in. This is the message I will send:

Doug McMillon, Ceo of Walmart,  I have read the Syllabus, SUPREME COURT OF THE UNITED STATES, WAL-MART STORES, INC. v. DUKES ET AL.    I just wanted to add to the Roberts Courts decision-making process. This is how it looks from the FLIP SIDE OF THE CHART.  Doug McMillon, it just can’t be all about WAL-MART.   The CEO stepped upon the stage and had a YOUTUBE MOMENT.  I am not a HATER. Two thumbs up and a WOOPTY-DOO for the Walmart stock associate, IWALANI JANANN MUIFA OPUPELE PSZYK who was promoted to an assistant manager.  The video Walmart Associate Receive Promotion Live On Stage gave validation to the unjust ways of  Wal-Mart’s promotion practices.   The native born Hawaiian moves from store 1456 in Evanston Wyoming to store 1461 in Rock Springs Wyoming.

Now let me move this story over. There are so many associates across the nation who has been standing in line and waiting for years for their turn to be promoted into a program which is practically non-existence due  to their race.  The associates who do  their jobs so well are tight cast in.  It is a detrimental sin. Associates have stood by and watch management’s Families, Bro’s, and In-laws (FBI)  crush their dreams while they are push back to the floor to remain.  Near the end of their shift they had to go to the back room and bend once again.

Reading through the Syllabus, the Ceo, Doug McMillon, demonstrated the following on stage.  The appointment of an associate for the assistant manager program carried out  by the tap on the shoulders whether they deserve it or not.   I am not saying she doesn’t deserve it. Did Doug McMillon stop and think about all the associates that have worked for WAL-MART for many years vs. two years?   Dreams shattered and stolen for all the associates who  will be overlooked because there is no real assistant manager  program to apply for. What is the criteria for the assistant management program?  What will IWALANI JANANN MUIFA OPUPELE PSZYK training consist of?   There is no written information on what she will be training for.  How can other associates apply?  Where is it posted? Is it on the Wal-Mart wire? Anytime management wants to pull a rabbit out of their  A.. they  will. WAL-MART has the rights to change their policy and procedure at any given TIME to benefit their needs. “WAL-MART works for WAL-MART.”  Wal-Mart has a No Fault Policy.  The state I live in, which is Missouri, is a No Fault State.   It will never be Wal-Mart’s fault.  Why?  You can terminate your relationship with Wal-Mart  at any TIME for no reason. Wal-Mart can divorce you any TIME for no reason and keep all their money throughout the entire season. I want to make it clear to Robin Thicke, Harry Connick Jr., Sarah McLaughlan, and Pharrell who sings Happy. Next TIME you guys get your A…on stage please do your research and learn this company has treated many of their associates, especially women,  pretty D… Crappy.

It has nothing to do with Wal-Mart D…  size.  It keeps the associates in the dark and confused by all the LIES. This Behemoth is a true monster but Walmart keeps it legal.  The Roberts Court is not Ladybug friendly.  It has swooped down like an eagle.  The Roberts Court has adjusted its safety belt and voted against women so they cannot find their way around the town. The great directional boulder has been removed and the Roberts Court is taking strategic steps to take Title Vll Of The Civil Rights Act Of 1964 down.  Who will the people turn to if EEOC is kicked out the door?  The Roberts Court will win a victory and the laws quote the raven,  “never more.”  The Women Of Walmart who filed workplace discrimination will dance to Beyonce Run the World(Girl).  Wal-Mart v. Dukes must go forward  to give the same pay and promotion to women a Rump-Shaking Twirl.   The Roberts Court has weakened the laws in Wal-Mart v. Dukes. Didn’t the Koch Brothers and Citizen United follow the  same suit? The Roberts Courts has not invested in the people as far as my lens can see. The Roberts Court has turned their backs and invested in the money tree.  Why was Clarence Thomas ever on this case? Doesn’t he have a problem with women and race?

MC HAMMER broke it down to the  ADAM’s FAMILY GROOVE.  We do what we want to do and say what we want to say.   We are the WAL-MART FAMILY. Keeping it legal is their key. Are they wrong? Yes!  Internally Wal-mart is out of step with today.   Did they listen to their lawyer they hired years go to cut out the BS? NO! Wal-mart VCR is flashing 12:00. The Operational Manuel is Home Office Operating everything and taking responsibility for  NOTHING. D…! Soooo to NAN ARON and KATRINA VANDEN HEUVAL thank you so much for supplying all that wonderful information at http://www.afj.org. It is TIME to share with you how our store operates unfairly. I hope this help the Roberts Court with their decision-making process.  If Judge Roberts worked in this store he would realize racism is alive and will continue to thrive. Racism has not taken a nose dive.

1.) Store #2857 has a 90 day treatment program. New associates are hired and fired before, on and after 90 days. It is impossible for all the new hires to have an attendance problem or productivity problem when they have never been properly trained.  What! The majority of these associates were African Americans and other diverse races. This is very important. Some of the associates were not allowed to get their exit papers. Whatever is written on your exit papers determine whether you will be rehired at Wal-Mart in 30 days.  Long time  associates that are fired can now be rehired at a much lower wage.  Associates  will be in a total rage. To later find out their exit papers were written dirty to enslaved and caged. This is not an OPPORTUNITY when you are fired to later find out you have been robbed from another job.  Shut Up!

2.) It shouldn’t take years to become a cashier. One young lady who is a stocker has waited years and years to be trained on the register.   At least 8 years that I know management has held this young lady, (Samka) back.  She asked and beg but have received nothing but static and  flack. The door greeter, JESUS, wants to come inside out of the rain.  He only wants to be trained in another area in the store.  My GOD! Can this Brother be placed at the door? The carts and the weather has taken its toll.  Jesus little old soul has been drenched and is cold.  You would not believe how hard the associates work and bust their A..  These associates should never have been bypassed. It is TIME for their Pay and Promotion without a doubt or a notion.  Supreme Court Justice John Roberts is there any way to set the wheels of Justice in Motion?   CEO Doug McMillon this is why Wal-Mart is sued and the court cost can run into billions. It has nothing to do with WAL-MART being so BIG. It has everything to do with how Unfair Labor Practices are rigged. There is no Justification for RETALIATION and DISCRIMINATION.  No company should to be too BIG to be tried, convicted, and JAILED.  There should NEVER be a company too BIG to FAIL. This is a special SHOUT OUT to Senator Elizabeth Warren of Massachusetts, Attorney General Eric Holder, and Secretary of Labor, Thomas Perez, and Senator Bernie Sanders.

3.) Speaking of old, Victor  Salve (Jack), Vicky Salve (Janice, Sue, me) and the rest of the gang who are no longer the BOLD  AND THE BEAUTIFUL.   We are  viewed by Wal-Mart as the OLD and LESS DUTIFUL.  Why?  We can think.   Our VERA WANG SWANG is gone and management thinks we stink.  We are no longer the anointed. Why? Our bodies are laced with liniment and  ointment.   Age plays a big factor. Seniority has no place. If you are salary capped (you must be white) you have run your last race. African Americans don’t make it that far. Why? We are forced out, fired, and if you are Black you are made to feel like you ain’t no superstar.

4.) In the 13 years I have worked for Wal-mart there were only 6 black assistant managers.  What happen?  Well, One stepped down and was force out. Three transferred with no hope and lots of doubt.  Co-managers was the position they all hope to be. They did not get a pat on the back,  a tap on the shoulder, no YOUTUBE MOMENT to see.  It was all downhill for at least 7 years. An African-American has arrived, oh my dear! Mr. Ricky started his TIME overnight. Not one white male assistant manager had to deal with this fight. Why did the store manager not start Mr. Ricky off right?  Every white male and  white female assistance manager started in the day. I hope Mr. Ricky is not being set up for failure and can continuing his stay. Do Say! Do Say!

5.) To Emanuel, Rose, Solome, Janese, to our latest cashiers Brie and Ashley. I have fought for years and years over all the horrible controversy.  This is for all of the overnight crew. Your Promotion and Pay Increases are long overdue. It is Time for you guys to take a stand and fight. Do not waver,  do not accept NO for an answer nor take flight.  Do not crumble, stutter or stumble. In life risks are taken and one will fumble. Tony,  Daniel, Brady, it all feels so rotten, messed up and shady.  You guys are pretty D… smart. The tap on the shoulder for the assistant manager who was chosen didn’t come close and they aren’t the state of the arts.

6.) CSM Marie, I am so sorry you have been treated so poorly.  Just remember one thing I truly adore you.  It is has only been 3 months and you put in for a transfer. When a transfer is pending you may get deferred. CSM Cynthia I will miss you too. Has it only been three months?  I hated they kept you out to the floor and not let you come up to the front. Just to let you know there is always a target on my back.  Every new management that comes into their job is to get promoted by attacking the one who is Black.

7.) Baby BOI from the grocery side. You lost your whole night crew. Every one of the 6 Blacks were under surveillance. What the Ha-Hell did they all do?  About 6-8 cashiers were fired all at one given TIME. The majority were mostly black. Can somebody tell me what’s up with that?   It’s a shame and a D… crime. This is the moment you would not believe. I am tired of being deceived. ZMS Jackson understands how we are perceived. It keeps us down so we can’t succeed. Certain Co-Managers has told the floor trained associates not to come to the register when I call. So now WAL-MART is in the business of not serving the customers at all. Our front end is rated by Consumer Report 67 out of 100 stores with poor customer service support. Wal-Mart is not standing tall. Do you really think this company is too big too fall?

8.) What really hurts me most of all. I know my back is up against a brick wall.  This is what the FLIP SIDE of the CHART needs to see.   This Wal-Mart store lack the knowledge to accommodate and hire people with disabilities. Wal-mart has not worked well with students who are trying to get their degrees.  Alisha who served this store for many years was not appropriately accommodated and needed a better deal. Like her job back for real.

9.) Yes,  I was dealt a mighty blow when the floor trained associates refuse to show. The customers cut coupons, and price match adds. What! Walmart not serve the people, D… this is really bad.  The Assistant Manager stated I had only one single skill set. It was communicating and serving the people. I guess my job has been met. I serve the people and I have no regrets. See Chris Mathews when I asks too may question like Why, Why not, What if.   I have failed to follow Directives. Brian Murphy watch and see what I will get. It is not a lack of curiosity. The order came from the top.  CC doesn’t want to take responsibility. Just like Wal-Mart, we all know they are both guilty.  The shoe is about to drop.

Sooo NAN ARON and KATRINA VANDEN HEUVAL this is another Wal-Mart story. The Roberts Court needs to come to their senses and send  DUKES out in a blaze of glory.  This is my footprint in the sand to encourage my employees to take a stand.  Title VII of the Civil Rights Act Of 1964 will regain its strength and run the marathon length so the Roberts Court will be unable to say “never more.”

My Friend With The Yellow Pen I’m glad you are listening in. I can understand being afraid walking down a dark alley. When it got too crowded  I had fears at the pep rally. When your house has been robbed and torn apart. Violating ones belongings will strike fear into any women’s  heart. I have never seen so much anger, frustration,  and fear as the associates clock in at Walmart.   My Friend With The Yellow Pen one day I hope it will all end.

Just Last Wink And A Few Blinks Ago__Eye Guide

What did you do with the other story?  It’s there  What made you change your mind?  The last visit to the  eye doctor. What happen?  Everything!  I got into this conversation and I thought if I get out of this office with my eyeballs attached to my head  I will be batting more than 1000. Was it intense?  Intense isn’t the word. It changed  the meaning of See all you can See. Here was this young African-American male explaining to me what will happen once I go beyond the door. He was so encouraging and so knowledgeable about eye diseases. He stated he was not diagnosed early with glaucoma. When he was diagnosed with glaucoma it had taken a toll on his left eye and it was beginning to work on his right eye.  He shared some very interesting information.  He stated depending on your race, open-angle glaucoma is 3 times more likely  to affect African Americans and 6 times more likely to cause blindness in the African-American community compared to non-hispanics  whites. Is that the type of glaucoma he had?  He mentioned pigmentary glaucoma, secondary glaucoma, congenital glaucoma,  and we got off into the different types of treatments.  To be honest with you I don’t recall him saying what type of glaucoma he had.  I remembering him saying whenever he was active his eyes would hurt. He did say his eyes would get red.  There was Times he felt nauseated and he would vomit a lot. He said he no longer could see out of the side of his eyes and everything looked like he was seeing through a tunnel. Then the lights went out in his left eye.

This young man got into the Did you know conversation. Whew! If I didn’t know I know now. He said the reason why so many people go blind is they do not follow their doctor’s plan especially taking the eye drops. Most people feel no pain so they think they’re okay. They stop taking the medicine and so much damage is done to their eyes. It gets to late and the damage cannot  be reversed.  Stick to your treatment. Find out how long the treatment will last. What do you do if your eyes are not responding to treatment?   Do you need a special diet?  Can exercise help my  condition? If I continue to drive are there any extra precautions or special arrangements I  should make. I noticed it was many people scheduled.  It takes 2 or 4 hours per person. I truly appreciated the conversation. It was though this young man was trying to prepare me.  He sensed I wasn’t afraid.  Why?  I came prepared with those questions people are afraid to ask.  Whatever the doctor rolled out on me I was going to  make the doctor sing Michael Jackson’s Let’s Dance Let’s Shout Shake Your Body Down To The Ground.  I care about my Eye Guide and all the people, places, and things I have not seen before the Wink goes on the Blink. Here are some of the questions you need to ask your doctor.

1.) What is glaucoma?

2.) What type of glaucoma do I have?

3.) What causes glaucoma?

4.) Was it another condition that cause me to have glaucoma?

5.) Is glaucoma hereditary?

6.) Can diabetes, vascular disease, or hypertension cause glaucoma?

7.) What is eye pressure?

8.) What is the range for eye pressure?

9.) How often should ones eye pressure be measured?

10.) How much damage has been done to my optic nerve?

11.) What is my prognosis?

12.) What type of treatments are available?

13.) Do we take the next step and move to laser if the medicine (eye drops) doesn’t work?

14) Shouldn’t  surgery be the last recourse? Why?

15.) What happens if I  go without treatment?

16.) What types of medication are offered?

17.) What are the results of the medications and side effects?

18.) How will this medication interact with other prescription medicines I’m taking?

19.) How often should I have my eyes checked even after the eye pressure goes down?

20.) Who out there knows their eye pressure, (IOP) intraocular pressure?

21.) Why don’t you get an early start? Exactly!

Special Note: This is not 50 Cent singing 21 Questions featuring Nate Dogg.

I felt it was an honor for this young man to reach out and try to comfort me. One of the greatest honors in my life are the people who has included me into their lives.  They were born blind, had eye injuries that later caused blindness but still they were willing to share their experiences with me. They were not bitter.  Strange how we look through our lens and do so much damage to our perception by sending the wrong message to our brain using the wrong elements of HATRED blocking the fluids in the eye.  Hatred is not a medication that can cure any disease. Hatred is not a POWER that can  lift one out of poverty. Hatred cannot bring success but only  duress.  Hatred is the key element for absolute BLINDNESS. Hatred has led men who has never fought in a War to leave a Soldier behind which is AB-SO-LUTE-LY MINDLESS. Hatred is the Cadillac of Cataracts to denounce  the individuals whose skin is of Ebony, Bronze, and Ivory.   Stale Old White Men with profound Glaucoma needs emergency surgery.  What happens when you cannot looked through the lens of ones eyes and accept change or diversity? The pressure builds up and before you know it Hatred has destroyed your perception of we the people, our nation, and the presidency who has been all he could be.  It was Just Last Wink And A Few Blinks Ago__Eye Guide has given me another  life’s lesson to See all that one can See.  Truthfully!